Warning Signs to a Long-term Relationship

If you live in the Northeast as I do, spring has finally arrived. I don’t know about you, but I find that there’s something magical about this time of year — everything seems to take on a more positive glow. Trees blossom and birds sing. Maybe that’s why people come out of their literal and […]

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Help for serious relationship concerns

Do you recall how it feels when you first fall in love with someone? Those feelings are remarkable, like a natural “high,” the kind of stuff you wish could last forever. And then for many reasons, those feelings go away. For some, the relationship ends. For others, it continues but in a more committed way. […]

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Women and Men Process Differently Part 2

In last week’s post, I spoke about women needing to be aware (or needing to remember) that women and men process information differently. Males tend to do so slower. Therefore, a woman may get frustrated or feel like a man is non-responsive when, in reality, he’s still taking the information in. Having simple information like […]

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Women and Men Process Differently Part 1

I always find my work with people so fascinating because, though there are so many commonalities, there are also a variety of specifics that each person or each couple brings in. Recently, I realized that there’s something that needs to be spelled out regarding how people in a relationship interact with each other. More and […]

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Dancing with Your Mate

Since relationships are so important, there are constantly studies being done to find out the qualities or tools that will help to enhance one’s partnership. One of these pieces of information is the importance of novelty. Often, it’s been suggested that to add spice to your relationship, you need to mix it up a bit; […]

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Positively Addressing Personal Issues to Save Your Relationship

After being in practice for over 25 years, I’ve met lots of couples and heard lots of stories of unhappiness. Though my goal is to help marriages survive, there are times when a relationship must end. When there’s abuse or there’s so much toxicity between the two, a relationship is better off ending. I’m happy […]

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Increasing the Odds of Choosing the Right Mate

Sadly, many find themselves alone due to divorce or widowhood. Most would prefer to be part of a couple. It’s often hard to meet someone new, and even more difficult to know whether the person you get involved with will be the right person. Though no one’s perfect, there are certain signs that can help […]

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Being Heard by Others to Increase Emotional Connections in Your Relationship – Part 3

Years ago, there was a very famous study done by Harlowe & Harlowe with rhesus monkeys. They created surrogate mothers by forming the shape of a monkey with wire. Some of the “mothers” were rigged up to give the baby monkeys food; the others had cloth on them but didn’t offer food. During times of […]

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Being Heard by Others to Increase Emotional Connections in Your Relationship – Part 2

In last week’s blog, I spoke about the tool of validation as being an important one to help your partner feel understood. Validation will help your mate feel like he or she is being heard and will increase emotional connection in your relationship. I explained that it’s not necessary for you to actually experience the […]

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Being Heard by Others to Increase Emotional Connections

Probably the biggest reason to be in a relationship is to feel connected. This is especially apparent in times of need — in times when you want to be understood, to be heard. And, when your partner is not able to do this, it’s quite disappointing and frustrating, not to mention isolating. So, for the […]

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