My Personal Insights:
Ahh, the wonderful world of technology. The truth is that all of you are receiving this newsletter, but I'm really traveling. It's being sent out to you by an automatic service and was written before I left on my vacation. Want to know where I am? In China -- with my daughter! It is the decision to take this trip that inspired the theme for this month's newsletter.
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Make a Choice to Live Now
In fact, going to China was never on my short-list. And - since I don't teach in the summer, it's a time that I use to play catch-up with all of my pet projects. But when my daughter asked me to travel with her, it occurred to me that an opportunity like that (to spend such quality time with her) would not come up too often. Clearly, I re-prioritized!
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Choice Tips:
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- Each day, take the time to look at your surroundings. What do you notice? Are there pretty sites to see or do you hear birds singing? Have you watched the sunset? All of these are free and truly add to your life's joy.
- Sure there's a lot to do; in fact, there's always a lot to do. But take out 5 minutes for yourself -- just 5 minutes. By meditating or just relaxing in this time period, it will really make a difference in how you approach the rest of your day.
- When something is bothering you, question whether it's really important and worth your energy. Here's a little trick: think about whether this same issue will concern you a month from now, a year from now, or ten years from now. If it's not important, let it go.
- If there's a problem, don't put it off. You are far better confronting it than having it be on your mind and silently depleting you. Getting information on the subject will help you deal with it.
- Approaching any situation with humor, if you can, will certainly help. Or reframe it, i.e. think about it in a different way.
- When your children come home from school and want to share their day with you, are you really listening? They will only be little for a short time and whether you pay attention to them or not will have a lot to do with how they feel about who they are.
- Prioritize your relationship. If you want your relationship to work, you have to work at your relationship.
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Additional Resources I Recommend:
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When one partner in a relationship is addicted to work, it can clearly destroy the relationship. As a matter of fact, divorce is twice as high in married couples where one is a workaholic. This information was in the article: Wedded to Work: Saving Your Marriage From a Demanding Job: Finding a Balance Between Work and Family is Hard But Not Impossible By Maureen Farrell in Forbes.com (Oct. 15, 2007)
On the lighter side, from the internet, a piece about setting your priorities: http://www.pagetutor.com/jokebreak/263.html
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Empowering Tools and Information:
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No doubt, most of you have a long laundry list of things you are going to get to or want to work on to improve your life. I have two suggestions to help you move in the right direction.
The first is that you have to accept that you really do have a choice in whether you want to live a less stress filled life. Click here to listen to a talk I gave about this to help pump you up on "Choose to Live a Stress-less Life."
And - depending on what's on your list, I've got your back. "101 Great Ways to Improve Your Life" is filled with lots of insightful and informative information from esteemed professionals like Jack Canfield and John Gray. I had the pleasure of contributing to this book as well.
To find out more about what you can learn in this volume, see for yourself here.
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